Forgiveness. Love. Trust. Three words that go hand in hand. For each one of these things to be true you must have the others, otherwise it just isn't true or pure. You may think I am talking about a relationship or friendship, and yes for a relationship or friendship you must have all these things, but today I wanted to talk about you. Because to forgive, love and trust yourself is the most important lesson and journey in life. Over the years, not very many years I know, I have fallen in and out of love with myself, hated and forgiven myself, trusted and lied to myself, and now I feel I have reached a point where I can understand how important this journey is. I am now able to reflect on these emotions and understand what the important things are, and what we can all do to help ourselves. Ultimately I believe that these three things, forgiveness, love and trust, are what helps us to be happy, at peace, and able to feel our very best. I am a firm believer in mental health being just as important as physical health, and to reach your potential you have to have a healthy relationship with yourself. Because if you're spending your energy on an inner battle how are you going to invest in your future? Right now you may be at a stage in your life where you and your mind are having a raging war, you may have found your piece, you may be floating in the middle somewhere, but I think if we all put as much time and effort into simply being happy as we do with all the other things we do, we'd all be much more successful.
Forgiveness is a very important step in being happy with yourself and understanding yourself. Before you can make peace with yourself you have to forgive your past and move forward. It's important to acknowledge your past however bad or good, but it's just as important to forgive yourself for it and prepare yourself for something new. To truly move on with your life and change your mind set you have to make peace with the fact that you may have done bad things in the past but that cannot be changed. Forgiveness is the key to happiness and once you've unlocked that gate and passed through to the other side you can be free of your worry, guilt and fear. To grow and develop we need to learn from our mistakes, not think about them constantly and obsess over them, because who does that help? Certainly not your happiness. Once you have learnt to forgive, even just the little things, you can understand yourself, you can be free from self loathing and fear of your mind, because you can have an inner understanding that mistakes do happen and it isn't the end of the world.
Once you have forgiven yourself, you can begin to learn how to love yourself a little better. There is that cliched expression that says "you cannot expect anyone else to love you if you cannot love yourself." And as awful and cringe as that sounds it is in many ways true. To feel worth and gratitude you have to love yourself. Look at yourself, look at what you can do, and see how amazing that is. You don't have to look like anyone else and you cannot be anyone else but yourself. It's sad to say that it's pretty unlikely you're gonna transform into Cara Delevingne over night, and you have to forgive yourself for this. Instead learn to love you for you. Spend time with yourself, see what makes you smile, indulge, work, enjoy your company, do things that you love, be yourself in your truest form, experiment with yourself, whether that be your clothes, hair, makeup. Do something different, challenge yourself, step outside your comfort zone, scare yourself, comfort yourself, make memories with yourself and adventure with just your mind for company. When you and your mind become one and love each other everything else will come naturally, easily and freely. You can do what you want because even if you mess up you know you'll always have yourself to catch you. Make your own success and comfort yourself when you fail. If you create that love you'll feel a sense of power and fearlessness that will empower and energise you.
Now you've gathered the forgiveness and love for yourself, the last step is to develop the trust. To know that when you have a bad day you won't end up deteriorating into a shy ball of sadness. You have to trust yourself that you know what you're doing, that you have a plan, a path, a future, and you can power on through anything. The bad days, weeks months may come but ultimately you and your mind will come out the other side bold, brave and fearless. You have to learn to know that the love you have created for yourself will always be there. It isn't going anywhere and you have to realise this, because I feel like this is the step that drags people back down again, they forget to trust themselves and begin to question themselves. Trust you. You have the potential to do anything you want, and it's not going to be a relaxing boat ride, the boat will rock, but you'll stay safely inside. If you can master this you can master anything i'm sure.
These things don't just happen, they take years, but the journey will be worth it, this is a journey I'm trekking through myself and I believe that eventually I will reach a point of total peace, harmony, happiness and love. Do it with me, start today, right now. See how much you can do. I know you can do it